A miserable little pile of secrets.

surprise surprise, another post about men. Surprising eh?! I know, I think about this often. You know what they say about men thinking about sex so much daily, well this must be about the equal for me thinking about men. It happens. Alot, everyday. Now, why? i'm not sure. I just do. Maybe because i'm fascinated by the different mind frame and wiring in their brain compared to ours. I know one will never truly understand it, however I enjoy coming up with theories and ideas. It's amusing and it gives me something to do. I appologize in advance to any man that ends up with me. As he will be meticulously observed, reported on and studied. So, to my future man, be prepared. But then again, if he can handle it and deal with it he's the kind I want to stick around!

So this weekend, I found myself pondering this once again...

What is a man? what is the true definition? So in my quest to find an answer, my obvious first step was to check the dictionary. In this day and age of technology when I say dictionary I mean dictionary.com. Why would I get up from my beautiful spot on the deck, in the sun, and trudge upstairs tog et a book when I can get the answer just as quickly with a few less physically demanding key strokes and finger movements.

Well. Dicitonary.com defines as follows:

Man
an adult male person, as distinguished from a boy or woman.

Now I believe that is an acceptable technical definition of what a man is physically. However, there is much more to what makes a man a man than the physical appearance. Yes, a man is distinguished from a boy physically, however in some cases they are still mentally on the same level as boys. Could that possibly be why women find themselves referring to males of all ages as boys at some time or another? Coincidence? I think not. I much prefer the urbandictionary.com top definiton of "man" which is:

Man
"A miserable little pile of secrets."

ahh yes, thats much better.

However, I only say that because one will never be able to fully understand another human being on this earth 100%. We are all wired differently and programmed to be unique. Come to think of it, I'd rather men be piles of secrets than open books that come with a table of content and user guide. That would not be interesting or exciting at all.

FYI: For all my cynicism in my writing, i'm really not that way in reality. (usually... I have my moments... but don't we all?)

I'm going to share MY definition of a man. And that is this:

An overall genuine caring adult male who has and understands the meaning of integrity, ambition and consideration. He accepts and understands others as well as himself and isn't afraid to stand up for what he believes in or for people or causes etc. he cares about. Treats all people fairly and shows some chivalry.

Now, I could go on and on, however that is the basics of what a man is to me. Of course tall, dark and handsome would help as well... but the superficial isn't as important as the profound. Every woman will have their slightly own definition that works for them. and thats a good thing. because if we didn't, we'd all be vying for the same men in this world!



as Tim Redmond said it best...

" There are many things that will catch my eye. But there are only a few that catch my heart. It is those I consider to pursue."