I'm trying to understand the cliche that every woman wants man that will write her poems, save kittens, and other cheesy crap like that. Sorry, but thats not what is going to catch my attention. I just can't get into the whole metro, super sensitive, tight pants, long hair, manscaping stuff. I'm sorry (Actually, no, i'm not even going to appologize for this. so no, i'm not sorry) but I want a man. As the song says: "these days theres dudes getting facials, manicured, waxed and botoxed, with deep spray on tans and creamy lotiony hands, you can't grip a tackle box." That is true. I agree.
I read an article that was talking about constant visual stimulation that men deal with of seeing attractive women all the time. It compared this by saying " it's like every good looking guy you saw was also writing you a poem while saving injured kittens on his motorcycle." Maybe i'm thinking too much into this. But if Isaw a guy writing a poem, and saving injured kittens on his motorcycle, I would think "wow, he's cute. but obviously stupid." one just can't think that would be possible without endangering something. Not saying that theres anything wrong with motorcycles, bikes are good. They are fun, and they show a side of adventure. Saving injured kittens, well that is just expected of any normal human being in my mind, if a kitten is injured, one will save it if it can be done safely. Obviously. Doing so wont' win you any extra brownie points, its a given act of humanity. Poems? well poems.... you know my thoughts on that. enough said. So long story short, the comparison did not work in my mind, however I have thought of a beter way to explain it for my mind. that being:
imagine every good looking man you saw had a five o'clock shadow, was wearing a black stetson, and driving a black ford f-350 crew cab diesel.
superficial? maybe. constant visual stimulation? Absolutely.
too many shiny pennies. I suffer from Magpie syndrome.
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
vulgar cheap appreciation
So reading this piece on why men supposedly are so interested in women and why they look at everyone thats marginally good looking or above. Also talks about the thoughts that could, should or do go through their minds.
So i'm wondering, why is it such a big conversation topic about how men objectify women? What about the other way around? It's not like it doesn't happen. Or is it just me? I will up front and openly admit I objectify men. I like men. I enjoy a good looking man. I can be slightly vulgar when I talk about them. But then again after the amount of times men have looked at my boobs and not at my eyes, or used some disgusting cheesy line instead of just saying hello and shaking my hand, do I not deserve it? I believe so, after all the amounts of crap I have put up with from guys, drunk and sober. I feel I have the right to admire them from a distance with vulgar cheap appreciation when I want to. The tables do turn. After all, if they realy can't deal with it, then they can grow up or atleast get over it.
So i'm wondering, why is it such a big conversation topic about how men objectify women? What about the other way around? It's not like it doesn't happen. Or is it just me? I will up front and openly admit I objectify men. I like men. I enjoy a good looking man. I can be slightly vulgar when I talk about them. But then again after the amount of times men have looked at my boobs and not at my eyes, or used some disgusting cheesy line instead of just saying hello and shaking my hand, do I not deserve it? I believe so, after all the amounts of crap I have put up with from guys, drunk and sober. I feel I have the right to admire them from a distance with vulgar cheap appreciation when I want to. The tables do turn. After all, if they realy can't deal with it, then they can grow up or atleast get over it.
Things that are getting beter part 3
so a while back I started a list of things that were getting better. I have decided to continue adding to this list randomly. here are some new entries!
1) my abs. umm hello, ab competition = working my ass off and getting rock hard abs. Need I say more!?
2) My "dating" (ick!) theories. Theories are made to be improved and topped. So I am constantly improving and re working and adding to my oh so correct dating hypothesis (thats sarcasm by the way). I mean come on, the whole no expectations thing is dreadfully brilliant. :)
3) Tim McGraw- Ok, I only thought to write this one because "southern voice" just came on. However, it is true. After the past few records, the newest relase by Tim "Southern Voice" Is actually a much better record again. Definitely a great improvement. Of course this is all in my own opinion. But if you don't know for yourself... trust me... way better!
hmmm thats all I have for now!
1) my abs. umm hello, ab competition = working my ass off and getting rock hard abs. Need I say more!?
2) My "dating" (ick!) theories. Theories are made to be improved and topped. So I am constantly improving and re working and adding to my oh so correct dating hypothesis (thats sarcasm by the way). I mean come on, the whole no expectations thing is dreadfully brilliant. :)
3) Tim McGraw- Ok, I only thought to write this one because "southern voice" just came on. However, it is true. After the past few records, the newest relase by Tim "Southern Voice" Is actually a much better record again. Definitely a great improvement. Of course this is all in my own opinion. But if you don't know for yourself... trust me... way better!
hmmm thats all I have for now!
Count Down begins!
the countdown to the big gyspy adventure has begun! approximately 189 days until departure! wooohoooo!!!! seems so far away still.. but still so excited already! Mega pumped up about this journey. It consists of 10000Km of road tripping over approximately a 6 week time period. Lots of camping, driving, exploring and fun fun fun!
tentative travel map is...:
south to three forks,montana (see Nate), east to hamilton, ON (see Jel and Jame!) then south through kentucky to nashville! (1 week in nashville! wooohooo!!!), then on to memphis, across arkansas, oklahoma to amarillo texas. Then up through colorado, a few stops in wyoming (cheyenne and jackson hole), then back up to thre forks Montana (visit Nate once more) and then home!
I get lost in daydreams just thinking, typing, talking about it. It fills me with joy and excitement. Like a kid on christmas morning... :) yeay for adventures!
tentative travel map is...:
south to three forks,montana (see Nate), east to hamilton, ON (see Jel and Jame!) then south through kentucky to nashville! (1 week in nashville! wooohooo!!!), then on to memphis, across arkansas, oklahoma to amarillo texas. Then up through colorado, a few stops in wyoming (cheyenne and jackson hole), then back up to thre forks Montana (visit Nate once more) and then home!
I get lost in daydreams just thinking, typing, talking about it. It fills me with joy and excitement. Like a kid on christmas morning... :) yeay for adventures!
Nate you are awesome.
CONGRATULATIONS NATE!
this is your public acknowledgement from me because I know you read my blog. and you were bugging me because it was neglected. So in order to make it not so neglected anymore, I decided to do a blog for you. So there. :)
You are superb and ridiculously talented.
I think mom is just as excited for you if not more than I am. lol. her words tonight were " I just can't believe how excited I am for Nate. I'm SOOOO excited for him! And I barely know him!"
Anyway, needless to say we are very pumped for you.
this is your public acknowledgement from me because I know you read my blog. and you were bugging me because it was neglected. So in order to make it not so neglected anymore, I decided to do a blog for you. So there. :)
You are superb and ridiculously talented.
I think mom is just as excited for you if not more than I am. lol. her words tonight were " I just can't believe how excited I am for Nate. I'm SOOOO excited for him! And I barely know him!"
Anyway, needless to say we are very pumped for you.
for those of you thinking "who the hell is Nate?" this is Nate...he is my friend.
(on the right, me on the left, duh.)
I heart Chris
So, I figured it was about time to remind you all how freakishly obessed (kidding!) I am with Chris and Jake. Mmm. Yes, I feel that I can refer to them by first name because they are part of my every day. Ok ok, for those of you that haven't figured this out yet, that is Chris young and Jake Owen. I love the music. And listen to it often. Never fails to put a smile on my face. Besides, how can it not with voices like that! :) So after needing new ring tones I decided what better than to get. Only problem is I don't want to answer the phone when it rings. I have let the odd call go to voice mail so I don't have to stop the song... oh well. I confess, I may not be away from the phone or purposely screening your call, i just want to listen to my music... sorry! :)
expectations & standards continued....
ok, so this time I have the computer plugged in, so no possible dead battery to worry about! I know, I am s-m-r-t. :) no comments necessary! :)
now where did I leave off...?...
right, the definition of expectations.
On to Standards
Standards:
a) a rule or principle that is used for basis of judgement
b) an average or normal requirement, quality, quantity, level etc.
c) a requirement of moral conduct
I always say don't have expectations. Without expectations you can't be disappointed. If you have no pre thought ideas of what might happen or what should, could, would etc. then there is no reason to have any disappointments. Because there is nothing to be disappointed about. Maybe that was a little redundant. Makes sense to me. If it doesn't to you, well.... ummm... too bad!
However, keeping in mind standards are different that expectations. As we just clarified by the definitions! I have many people say that you need to have expectations. I say no, you don't. You NEED to have standards. for example, here is a scenario:
You start dating a new person. Its going fine, but you don't have any expectations on where it is going to end up. You go with it day by day. Not working towards a goal of meeting their parents on day 179, getting engaged on day 674 and then getting married exactly 3.8 years after you met. No, you don't. You don't think about future. You keep your mind in the present. No expectations on where it will end up. Becuase heaven forbid that you don't get engaged until day 594 and then you break up on day 932 which is 2 days before the wedding on day 934, you won't be disappointed when those deadlines or goal dates go flying by. Because they were never set to begin with. How perfect!
However, you do have standards. Those being things like,
a) They are loyal to you
b) they are trustworthy
c) their moral standards are aligned with your moral standards
d) they are not a criminal
etc etc etc
makes sense, yes?
Take this tidbit of information and tuck it in the back of your mind. Keep it for when you need reminder of why one should live in the moment and day by day... especially when it comes to getting out there, meeting new people and especially (and i shudder when I say this word...) dating. (ick!)
now where did I leave off...?...
right, the definition of expectations.
On to Standards
Standards:
a) a rule or principle that is used for basis of judgement
b) an average or normal requirement, quality, quantity, level etc.
c) a requirement of moral conduct
I always say don't have expectations. Without expectations you can't be disappointed. If you have no pre thought ideas of what might happen or what should, could, would etc. then there is no reason to have any disappointments. Because there is nothing to be disappointed about. Maybe that was a little redundant. Makes sense to me. If it doesn't to you, well.... ummm... too bad!
However, keeping in mind standards are different that expectations. As we just clarified by the definitions! I have many people say that you need to have expectations. I say no, you don't. You NEED to have standards. for example, here is a scenario:
You start dating a new person. Its going fine, but you don't have any expectations on where it is going to end up. You go with it day by day. Not working towards a goal of meeting their parents on day 179, getting engaged on day 674 and then getting married exactly 3.8 years after you met. No, you don't. You don't think about future. You keep your mind in the present. No expectations on where it will end up. Becuase heaven forbid that you don't get engaged until day 594 and then you break up on day 932 which is 2 days before the wedding on day 934, you won't be disappointed when those deadlines or goal dates go flying by. Because they were never set to begin with. How perfect!
However, you do have standards. Those being things like,
a) They are loyal to you
b) they are trustworthy
c) their moral standards are aligned with your moral standards
d) they are not a criminal
etc etc etc
makes sense, yes?
Take this tidbit of information and tuck it in the back of your mind. Keep it for when you need reminder of why one should live in the moment and day by day... especially when it comes to getting out there, meeting new people and especially (and i shudder when I say this word...) dating. (ick!)
Sunday, February 21, 2010
expectations vs. standards
After going out with some friends the other night and talking alot about men and dating (one is starting in on the dating scene, after many years off of it). We had great discussions about it all. At one point, I was asked "How do you do it?" How do I do what? Turns out, how do I date and get to know so many guys. Well. firstly, I dont "date" I don't like the ideaology and expectations and whole idea of it. So I don't use that term. Kind of teh same reason I don't like valentines day...
anyway, my top 3 points of advice were:
1) be open, honest, and upfront
2) remember there are alot of great almosts out there.
3) have no expectations. without expectations you can't be disappointed.( however remember expectations and standards are 2 different things.)
without
so i'm going to elaborate on the 3rd point. Expecations vs. Standards. This being....
Expectation:
- the act or state of looking forward or anticipating
-something expected
(expected: to suppose, surmise, guess. To look forward to, to regard as likely to happen.)
ooops. computer battery is dieing. I will have to finish this later! lol
anyway, my top 3 points of advice were:
1) be open, honest, and upfront
2) remember there are alot of great almosts out there.
3) have no expectations. without expectations you can't be disappointed.( however remember expectations and standards are 2 different things.)
without
so i'm going to elaborate on the 3rd point. Expecations vs. Standards. This being....
Expectation:
- the act or state of looking forward or anticipating
-something expected
(expected: to suppose, surmise, guess. To look forward to, to regard as likely to happen.)
ooops. computer battery is dieing. I will have to finish this later! lol
wisdom teeth... ick.
Sooo... february 9th i got all 4 of my wisdom teeth out. That was great fun. ha. But it did mean I got a week off from work! Bonus! Luckily it went well and I didn't need to take any of my pain meds. So I headed out to the farm on thursday for an extended weekend. I hid out with my chipmunk cheeks and played with the horses a bit, did some riding and work in the leather shop. It was fabulous!!! except the chipmunk cheeks and swelling made it difficult to eat... but minor price to pay for 5 days at the farm!
ashley and gump out for a ride on a beautiful day!
Cash and I going for a run!
surfing...? or attempting to?
Abs competition...
ok, where to begin... once again I have slightly fallen off the wagon with the blog. But thats ok, I will just keep catching the next one that comes by....
Speaking of falling off the wagon, I have gotten myself into an abs contest. Now... not sure why. or how. actually, thats a lie. I do know how. It was my own brilliant idea, and I initiated it all. Why, i'm not sure. However it has started a very big quest to win on my side. So back to the wagon, I tend to fall off almost daily for the not eating chocolate and other crap part... I did well for the first week. Then I fell off, then I fell off again, and again. I do keep jumping back on, only to fall off again... oh well. As long as I don't give up right!? So I like food. and chocolate. I can't help it. As long as I keep it in moderation I will be ok. Weston did suggest that I just tie myself on to the wagon with a 60 foot rope, so then I could just drag along behind without being left completely when i fall off. I think its not a bad idea. however I wouldn't mind it being a shorter rope because a 60 footer would make corners kind of hard and possible painful... :)
So, the abs competition is this: it started back in january and was supposed to go for 6 weeks. However I was sick for the month of january and then had my wisdom teeth out at the beginning of february so I think it is going to be extended. The winner is the one with the most visible difference from beginning to end. So I, being a genius forgot to take a beginning picture... crap. oh well. I'm still going to win. Because I took a picture about 3 weeks in... here they are... me and my competition!
Me... 3 weeks into the comp. Turns out I reallly should have remembered to take a beginning pic because this is improvement. trust me...
Speaking of falling off the wagon, I have gotten myself into an abs contest. Now... not sure why. or how. actually, thats a lie. I do know how. It was my own brilliant idea, and I initiated it all. Why, i'm not sure. However it has started a very big quest to win on my side. So back to the wagon, I tend to fall off almost daily for the not eating chocolate and other crap part... I did well for the first week. Then I fell off, then I fell off again, and again. I do keep jumping back on, only to fall off again... oh well. As long as I don't give up right!? So I like food. and chocolate. I can't help it. As long as I keep it in moderation I will be ok. Weston did suggest that I just tie myself on to the wagon with a 60 foot rope, so then I could just drag along behind without being left completely when i fall off. I think its not a bad idea. however I wouldn't mind it being a shorter rope because a 60 footer would make corners kind of hard and possible painful... :)
So, the abs competition is this: it started back in january and was supposed to go for 6 weeks. However I was sick for the month of january and then had my wisdom teeth out at the beginning of february so I think it is going to be extended. The winner is the one with the most visible difference from beginning to end. So I, being a genius forgot to take a beginning picture... crap. oh well. I'm still going to win. Because I took a picture about 3 weeks in... here they are... me and my competition!
Me... 3 weeks into the comp. Turns out I reallly should have remembered to take a beginning pic because this is improvement. trust me...
my competition... I'm so going to win... :) lol...
oh yes, so minor detail I didn't mention, my competition is male. However, with the wording of it being " greatest visible difference" We stand equal chances. I may even have the upper hand... time will tell!
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